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Distanced Couple

COUPLES THERAPY

A Unique Approach to Relationships and Couples Counselling

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For many couples, the thought of participating in relationship counselling is almost as frightening as allowing their relationship to fail. We are well aware of these common misgivings, and we strive to alleviate these fears when you reach out for help.

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What makes us so effective is that our services focus on the fundamental elements of strengthening a relationship. 


We help you…

  • WORK PAST the issues that are holding back your relationship

  • LEARN how to be better friends and lovers having more fun as you go.

  • BUILD TRUST and commitment through rituals of connection you can count on

  • MANAGE CONFLICT like the masters of relationships do.

  • STOP the four best predictors of relationship breakdown


Facing the Unavoidable

  • In addition to those skills, we will address the unavoidable negativity lurking under the surface of even the strongest relationships. These include contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling, and they only foster the feelings of anxiety creeping up in troubled relationships.


By emphasising strengths, we help couples deepen their friendship and learn to power through their conflicts. We not only help mend broken relationships, we help couples develop the power to maintain healthy relationships for the long term.


What to Expect

  • You’ll learn how your personality impacts your relationship and will be taught effective methods of working through the inevitable irreconcilable differences of opinion. You’ll be guided in negotiating to find common ground as well as the six social skills required for resolving relationship conflicts.


Our Approach to Relationship Counselling

Unlike many offering relationship counselling, we feel pointing out the specific flaws of each spouse is counterproductive; it only serves to build anger and resentment. We know true relationship help stems from teaching couples to talk to each other rather than about each other, and to work toward addressing their issues in a healthy manner.

  

We have developed our counselling/coaching approach around the research of Dr. John Gottman, Ph.D., who has spent 38 years studying what works in relationships.


The author or co-author of 178 published academic articles and author of 37 books, he is a world-renown expert in the field of relationships.


Dr. Gottman’s scientific and positive ‘nuts and bolts’ approach to working with couples ensures that you are provided with tools that get results. 

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What our sessions will cover:

  • Understanding personality differences

  • How to build passion and love back into the relationship

  • How to solve or dialogue effectively about any issue you face

  • Learning about love languages and how to discover yours

  • How to process failed bids for connection

  • Building a shared meaning system that propels you into a more fulfilling future.

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What You Will Learn:

  • How your personality styles affect your relationship and what to do about it

  • Simple negotiation techniques

  • How to identify and address Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling

  • About your “Friendship Profile”, the “Conflict Profile”, and the “Shared Meanings Profile”

  • How to resolve the “physiological flooding” and anxious feelings that accompany many relationships

  • To successfully dialogue about grid-locked conflicts

  • To establish six social skills necessary for effective conflict resolution.

  • To love unconditionally with no strings attached

  • Stages of forgiveness and how to apologize and mean it

  • How to deepen your friendship with your partner

  • How to develop and create a shared system of values and meanings

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If you are ready to feel less stress and conflict in your relationship, and enjoy greater connection and intimacy with your partner take the next step. . . 

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